The Truth About Blind Spots

Every man has them. Blind spots.

The parts of ourselves we can’t—or won’t—see.

They’re the unseen patterns driving our reactions, our choices, and sometimes our downfall. They keep us stuck in cycles of blame, fear, and avoidance, unable to take full responsibility for our lives.

The truth is, blind spots are everywhere. You can see them playing out in our society every day. Finger pointing. Hypocrisy. Division. Each side convinced the other is the problem, while refusing to see the mirror staring back at them.

But the same pattern that divides nations also divides the individual man from his highest potential.

When you can’t, or won’t, look at your blind spots, you lose your power.

Fear and the Illusion of Control

Fear is at the root of every blind spot.

Men fear the truth. Fear the responsibility that comes with seeing it. Because once you see clearly, you can’t hide behind excuses anymore.

It’s easier to believe “I’ve got my shit together—they’re the problem.”

It’s easier to sit in the ivory tower of self-righteousness than to face where you’re full of it.

But that’s the real work. That’s what separates boys from men—the willingness to take responsibility not just for your actions, but for your blind spots, your patterns, and your suffering.

Anxiety: The Master Blind Spot

Most men live their lives trapped in anxiety, reacting to stories they’ve made up about what might happen in the future.

Anxiety is powerful because it feels real. But it’s not.
It’s the mind’s way of avoiding responsibility. You can’t take action because the threat isn’t real. You can’t take responsibility because there’s nothing to take responsibility for.

It’s exhausting—and it keeps men from being present.

When you’re anxious ➜ you’re living in the future.
When you’re depressed ➜ you’re stuck in the past.
Presence is the antidote.

When you return to this moment, you begin to see what’s actually true—not the stories your mind is feeding you.

How to Find Your Blind Spots

Blind spots aren’t easy to see. That’s the point. But there are signs.

Look for:

• Anything you fear.

• Any belief that makes someone else wrong and you right.

• Any recurring obstacle between where you are and where you want to be.

• Any moment of suffering that doesn’t go away.

Those are the doorways. Each one is an invitation to look deeper.

And yes, it’s uncomfortable as hell.
But that discomfort is your teacher.

As the saying goes, “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
When you’re suffering, it’s because there’s something you’re refusing to see.

Why You Can’t Do It Alone

No man can see all his blind spots by himself.

That’s why men’s groups are essential. They give you mirrors—brothers who call you forward when you can’t see what’s holding you back.

At The Undaunted Man, we live this work. We help men uncover what’s keeping them from living fully, loving deeply, and leading powerfully.

Because when you start to see clearly—without fear, without denial—you reclaim your power.

You stop reacting. You start leading.

And that’s the moment you become undaunted.

So, if you’re ready to uncover the blind spots keeping you stuck, come check out one of our men’s groups, the first one’s free.