From Lust to Lasting: The Truth About Relationship Readiness
From Lust to Lasting: The Truth About Relationship Readiness
There’s a lot of noise out there when it comes to relationships—hot takes, clickbait lists, surface-level advice. But in my work with men, one truth shows up again and again:
Most relationships don’t fall apart because of lack of love. They fall apart because of lack of alignment.
Too many men enter relationships hoping love will be enough. They mistake chemistry for compatibility, lust for longevity, and butterflies for a solid foundation.
Here’s what that usually looks like:
You meet someone. It’s electric. You’re on your best behavior, trying not to mess it up. You let the little things slide. You avoid hard conversations. You don’t ask the deep questions because you don’t want to rock the boat.
You assume the spark is enough.
Until one day—it’s not.
That’s when the real conflict begins. Not the surface-level arguments about dishes or weekend plans. The deep, unresolved stuff:
Different values
Unspoken needs
Mismatched visions for the future
Silent resentment
Emotional disconnection
It’s not that love isn’t there. It’s that love was never the plan—just the hope.
What Lasting Relationships Are Actually Built On
If you want a relationship that doesn’t just feel good in the moment but works long-term, you need more than affection. You need alignment. That requires having the courage to ask real questions up front:
What kind of relationship are we building—one of comfort or one of truth?
How do we handle conflict—do we face it or avoid it?
What are our actual values around money, sex, parenting, purpose?
Are we willing to name our non-negotiables, our needs, and our boundaries?
Can we be honest with each other when it’s hard?
These aren’t sexy conversations. But skipping them is what turns minor cracks into full-blown breakups.
And no, you don’t need to have all the answers. But you do need to start asking the right questions.
Because if you’re not talking about this stuff, you’re building on sand. And you’ll feel it when the tide comes in.
This Is the Work We Do Inside The Undaunted Man
We don’t do fake it ‘til you make it.
We don’t do posturing.
We don’t do theory with no action.
We create space for men to have real, raw conversations—about relationships, purpose, values, and growth. We teach the tools that help you show up in integrity and build something real, in love and in life.
If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, “Why wasn’t love enough?”—this is your invitation to do it differently.
We just opened a new daytime men’s group. First visit’s free.
No pressure. No performance. Just the work.
